If you’re a parent or soon to be parent then I bet you’ve heard the advice. “Sleep when the baby sleeps.” It is good advice but not always practical.
What about second time parents? How does this advice fit in? If you already have a child then you can’t always sleep during the day when your baby does.
You still need to get up for your first child whenever that may be. Spending the day entertaining, teaching, feeding, cooking and cleaning all while your new baby sleeps! Finally you manage to get your first-born to bed and crash on the sofa. A glass of wine in hand to unwind before hitting the hay yourself. You can almost guarantee that as soon as your ass hits the seat cushion your new-born will open their eyes and cry like they’re witnessing a murder. Now if you’re an optimist like me you might have the silly idea that after a nappy change, feed and cuddle your baby will settle down to sleep allowing you to get some very well-earned rest. Wrong!
You now spend the next 6-9 hours trying everything you can think of to get your baby to sleep just so you can get an hours rest. If you’re desperate enough you might even take to google or parenting forums to find out any tips or tricks that could help. Instead all you find is that there is a perfect mum called ‘Ruth’ who’s new-born baby sleeps a good 6-8 hours straight through the night.
Finally around 4 or 5 am your baby falls asleep. Yay! You get into bed quicker than a toddler emptying their toy box. Just managing to get around 2 or 3 hours sleep before your first-born wakes up and you start the day again. It doesn’t take too long before you feel like help is needed. This can be done with the help of your partner. You could get someone to look after your first-born for a day. That way you can sleep while your baby does.
Just remember to ask for help before you get too sleep deprived and be safe. If you are in a relationship, your partner should be there helping look after the kids. After all they did help make them.