A Discussion With A Dad – Steve A.K.A. Daddy Stinks

Hello Steve,

Thanks for letting me and my readers get to know you.

Steve is the blogger behind ‘Daddy Stinks

How long have you been blogging?

I stared blogging in April this year and I am absolutely hooked.

How many children do you have and how old are they? 

I have an 8-year-old boy called Kieran and a 9-year-old daughter named Lexie.

What was the reason for starting your blog?

I feel like I have a real story to tell and everyone kept saying you should write. So here I am.

What is your blog about? 

My blog is about my life, my hobbies and my thoughts. I guess it was going to be an online diary but I just love writing.

Where do you get your inspiration?

I get all my inspiration from past experiences and current affairs.

Are you a full-time blogger or do you work aswell?

I am a full-time blogger while I look for work but then I will have to put it on the back burner as I can’t see my blog putting food on the table unfortunately.

How do you manage to fit blogging in to your daily life?

I suffer from PTSD and as such I do not sleep so I get twice as long as everyone else 😀 That said my hostel room is still a mess I still have the constant running battles looking for school uniform and such.

Did you follow any blogs before you started blogging? 

I followed _The mum diaries and Mummy and moose.

Where would be your ideal holiday? 

Right now Disney land with the kids or Bora Bora alone.

What is your favourite activities to do with your family?

Just messing about whether it is playing tag or jumping in puddles and kicking mud at each other. I absolutely love being a dad and plan on getting the most out of it before it is too late.

Do you have any plans on growing your family?

No.

How do you relax when you get chance to?

To relax would be awesome, maybe one day I will get my head in order and be able to. That said I find long hot baths and reading a good form of temporary escape.

What qualities do you think are important for a parent?

The ability to stay calm, loyal and understanding. Children are amazing but you have got to understand they do not think like adults they do not have the thought processes of adults so it is all about education and understanding.

What makes you laugh? 

My Son, Seriously that dude could cheer up a morgue he is brilliant, Right now he is laying on the sofa on his tablet legs apart in the air pretending to fart!!!

What is your pet peeve?

Parents who scream at their kids for the most trivial things. Let me tell you screaming at your children does nothing. It does not take long for a child to mute a screaming parent.

Do your children do anything that gets under your skin? 

Yes, They do all the things every other child does. Some days they amaze me with their knowledge other days they flick bogeys at me while I am trying to eat my dinner.

Has becoming a parent stopped you doing anything? 

Yea, It has stopped me destroying my life completely with drink and drugs. They will never hold me back because having kids is the best thing in the world. It should not stop you doing anything it just means you may have to put stuff on hold or plan differently

How did you find the pregnancy? Was it difficult or a pleasure?

This will be controversial but serving in the Armed forces I was hardly there for a lot of the pregnancy. That said when I was home I was home and not out and about. All I ever wanted was to have children and I felt blessed all through it.

What’s your favourite thing to do when you don’t have your children?

I have my children at all times because right now their mum makes stupid choices and they are not safe with her. I love camping and rock climbing and luckily my children do too.

If you could be a character in a TV show who would you be and why?

My kids say I am like Homer Simpson because I am silly but I always try to do my best.

What do you normally have for breakfast? 

Dippy Egg and soldiers.

What is your favourite kids TV show and why?

Luckily my children don’t watch a lot of TV because I find children’s tele awful. That said we DO have a TV and are often found watching Simpsons.

Do you have any advice for first time parents?

Yea Don’t put anyone or any thing first except your family. Do not mess it up they are relying on you. This is the single most important thing you will EVER do in your life and you are responsible for not just your children but their children and their children’s children.

What’s your favourite time of year and why?

Summer because I love being out the house and in a field or forest somewhere. It doesn’t bother me when I go but the kids enjoy it more in summer so it makes it more pleasurable for everyone.

What celebrity would you like to meet and why?

It used to be Freddy Flintoff because I thought he would be a right laugh. However after watching the documentary about Rio Ferdinand I have so much respect for him and would love a chat with him about fatherhood.

Have you met a celebrity before and if so who was it and how did it happen?

I bumped into Athena Turner in London I had no idea who she was though.

Do you consider yourself a strict parent?

I am strict in all the wrong times I think.

Who is your role model?

My dad.

What is the worst piece of advice you were given?

My dad when he told me to give up fighting for them when social services were being hard. I was so close to quitting I didn’t need my hero telling me to stop fighting.

What do your children enjoy doing?

Playing outside, climbing trees, sword fighting with sticks and pestering me to get a dog.

What has been the hardest part of parenting so far?

Taking full custody of them in September 2017 and learning how to be a full-time dad after not having them for 6 years.

What do you think is the most important thing to teach children?

Be yourself and reach for the stars I actually wrote a letter to my children on my blog explaining all this here.

What have you enjoyed most about being a dad?

I enjoy it when the kids do something I am proud of. They recently collected Easter eggs from all the parents at school and delivered them around the community to 4 old people’s homes, The fire station and all the kids in the hostel we are living in. This made the local radio twice and the local newspaper. It was my proudest moment as a father.

Thank you very much to Steve from Daddy Stinks for being a great sport and taking part in ‘A Discussion With A Dad’.

Steve is an amazing man and father. If you would like to know more about him and his life then head over to his blog Daddy Stinks, follow him on Twitter @daddystinks and check out his Facebook page here.

If you would like to take part in ‘A Discussion With A Dad’ then please email me at Chris@theopinionateddad.co.uk

As always thanks for reading and your support.

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