A Discussion With A Dad – Richard From Drums And Bogeys

Hello Richard,

Thanks for letting me and my readers get to know you.

Richard is the blogger behind ‘Drums And Bogeys

A little about Richard;

I’m a 44-year-old British Ex-Pat, living and working In Switzerland, during the day I am stay at home dad for my boys and in the evening I’m a professional musician.

How long have you been blogging?

I’m a newbie, wet behind the ears, still finding my feet with it. I started back in 2015 but only properly, regularly writing and updating this year. I still have absolutely no idea what I’m doing but people seem to enjoy what I write! Any tips welcome!

How many children do you have and how old are they? 

2 Boys, aged 8 and 6.5. I don’t use their names in my blog, they are simply BIG and Small, or collectively The Hooligans.

What was the reason for starting your blog?

I live abroad and I have always collected and written stories about my kids and our adventures to share with family back home, it was after I shared the few that family encouraged me to share them a little wider. So I tentatively started a blogger page and more recently a Twitter feed to go along with it.

What is your blog about? 

It’s about my adventures balancing a life as a stay at home Dad and Professional Musician, during the day i’m pretty much at home doing all the stuff that we need done here, whilst my wife works in her business, in the evenings and at weekends we tend to swap so she is here at home with the boys and I am out working. The blog basically recounts some of the stupid stuff we do, some of the embarrassing things the boys do, days out, days without sleep, general family chaos and adventures as the boys grow up, the fun of speaking 2 languages and there’s also some cooking and making things!

Where do you get your inspiration?

The two boys are a constant source of inspiration.

Are you a full-time blogger or do you work aswell?

No, I’m not a full-time blogger, I’d love to be but literally have no idea! I’m a professional musician, a drummer and songwriter/lyricist, working for a famous artist in Switzerland.

How do you manage to fit blogging in to your daily life?

I try to write on a Monday morning when the boys and my wife have left for school and work, it’s my quietest time of the week, no distractions, no music to think about…I can focus on putting something together based upon our last week of activities or I will sometimes write-up a story I have been meaning to share for a while.

Did you follow any blogs before you started blogging? 

No, not at all..Since starting to actively write more from January, I have discovered some fabulous Blogs and wished I’d have discovered them sooner!

Where would be your ideal holiday? 

Honestly… at home in the Swiss Alps, I love it here, it has everything, dramatic scenery that changes everyday, a great climate and the ability to be able to do a multitude of activities from the front door step in winter and summer.

What is your favourite activities to do with your family?

We are a pretty active family so Skiing, Ice Skating, Cycling, Swimming and Hiking are all regulars. For a bit more madness and because I’m a big kid,  the boys and I do a lot of skateboarding and BMX-ing at the local skatepark and BMX track.

Do you have any plans on growing your family?

Absolutely not! The Hooligans are quite enough work as it is for us, We are both working a lot as we run our own businesses and the swiss school system means we have to be home every lunchtime to cook. Kids don’t stay at school over lunch here and they are only at school 5 mornings and 2 afternoons a week. It’s a busy but fun life and we have no time, or energy, for another little one!

How do you relax when you get chance to?

I GO TO WORK…….No really, I love working in the music business, it’s a great way to keep exercising my creative side. It’s such a great difference to being stay at home Dad, I get to travel to interesting places, meet lots of people and play my drums on big stages with great musicians… basically I get to show off…it’s a lot like being a kid really!!

It does have it’s downsides like super late nights and super early mornings if I’m back in charge of the house after a series of shows, getting the boys together for school and keeping the house in order and having dinner cooked and the place presentable after 2 hours sleep is a challenge and then there’s touring which can be tough but, I don’t travel great distances as much as I used to before we had the kids, when I do, which is usually for a few weeks a year, I miss the family a lot…that does make it all the sweeter when you come home!

What qualities do you think are important for a parent?

You need to have time for your kids, there is so much emphasis on getting out and working and having the perfect life, I think it’s a shame when so many parents miss out on their kids upbringing because they both work and have the kids in day care all the time. I think  that I think you need to be happy in where you are and be happy to spend time with your kids. I love that my profession means my wife and I are able to share their upbringing together. I love that I can be there and see them grow up, help them learn, answer their questions and help to solve their problems nearly every day.

What makes you laugh? 

My boys always make me laugh, they have a brilliant sense of humour, very British..my wife, who is Swiss, often rolls her eyes at us when we are involved in something stupid.

What is your pet peeve?

Dog Poo.

Do your children do anything that gets under your skin? 

Yes, as a musician I have quite sensitive ears, partly due to years of playing without hearing protection. Sometimes when the boys get really excited and over the top, they screech…I absolutely can’t stand it, I literally have to drop what I’m doing and leave the room, they are much better now that they realise it seriously bothers me. They usually stop and apologise but there was a time when they were younger and didn’t understand what they were doing that it seriously bothered me.

Has becoming a parent stopped you doing anything? 

No, in fact the opposite, it has encouraged me to do more, get out more and re-discover old activities, passions and hobbies.

How did you find the pregnancy? Was it difficult or a pleasure?

A scary journey of discovery! I didn’t even have any of the hard work to do, I was just trying to support my wife as we’d moved countries and had started from scratch. She looked amazing though and was super active with both boys, literally working, cycling and hiking up until a week before they were born. Nothing but admiration!

What’s your favourite thing to do when you don’t have your children?

It’s not often due to my family being in the UK and my wife’s family living a fair way from us..But, when we do have time,it’s something simple like a hike, a dinner together, maybe a nice Spa hotel if the opportunity arises.

If you could be a character in a TV show who would you be and why?

That’s a tricky one…i always fancied being a Policeman so, Gene Hunt from Life on Mars or Ashes to Ashes would be fun I guess..then i’d get to drive the Quattro!

What do you normally have for breakfast? 

A very large coffee and a gipfeli (A swiss croissant)

What is your favourite kids TV show and why?

It’s kind of evolved as the boys have grown, We used to always watch Rasta Mouse and Zingzillas but now it’s Spongebob, Ninjago and Larva which are firm favourites in the house. also the boys are massive Star Wars fans which is great because I am too 😀

Do you have any advice for first time parents?

Enjoy every moment, it moves so fast….and Sleep whenever you can.

What’s your favourite time of year and why?

High Summer or Deep Winter, it just allows us to make the best of the beautiful place we live!

What celebrity would you like to meet and why?

I’d love to have met Prince, just to soak up some of that genius, just to see what drove and inspired him to the highest levels of creative output that he maintained throughout his career.

Have you met a celebrity before and if so who was it and how did it happen?

I have met and worked with a lot of celebrities in my profession, mostly they are normal people with normal worries and behind the lights, live fairly normal lives, their celebrity status can sometimes be as much of a hinderance as it is a gift.

What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve done since becoming a parent?

I don’t think I’ve reached that stage of parenting yet, I’m sure that within a few years my boys will find me terribly embarrassing…I look forward to it 😀

Do you consider yourself a strict parent?

There are certain things that I’m very strict upon, I like the boys to say please and thank-you which is not normal for Swiss kids, I also expect them to sit properly at the dinner table if we are eating together and I’m super strict on them treating each other and everyone they meet with a certain level of respect.

Thank you very much to Richard from Drums And Bogeys for being a great sport and taking part in ‘A Discussion With A Dad’ More so for being my guinea pig.

Richard seems to be a great man and father. If you would like to know more about him, his life and ‘The hooligans’ then head over to his blog Drums And Bogeys, follow him on Twitter @drumsnbogeys and check out his music here.

If you would like to take part in ‘A Discussion With A Dad’ then please email me at Chris@theopinionateddad.co.uk

As always thanks for reading and your support.

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